Signs, Signs, Everywhere There’s Signs

I’ve started paying attention to signs. Not just road signs, but clues or meanings that trigger directions for me to follow or messages I am suppose to be aware of. Usually they are verbal but every now and then they are words I read. Over the past 7 days the message I have received loud and clear is, if you want something bad enough, say it out loud. Tell people you desire this.

It all started last week in my Qualitative and Quantitative Research class. My Professor gave me an article she found on LinkedIn. It is called,

Four Ways Women Stunt Their Careers Unintentionally  by Jill Flynn, Kathryn Heath, and Mary Davis Holt, you can read the blog here.

Essentially, The article tells women to be proud of their accomplishments and say so. Don’t assume the people in power know what you are capable of, tell them. Be assertive. Men typically do this all the time. When women do it, they are looked at as bossy or pushy. Have you ever heard the old adage, the squeaky wheel gets the grease? Well, it’s true.

My mom and I had a sit down the other day talking about selling yourself. My mom is likely the best sales person on the planet. She can sell ice to Inuit. She maintains that if you can’t sell yourself to a company you want to work for, than how can you be expected to sell anything once you work for them?

Good point mom. I also know if I sell myself too hard, than I risk being shown the door. I’m okay with that. I am confident enough in my own ability that finding a new opportunity down the road is possible. The bottom line is, I know what I want, I can see it clearly. I am taking steps that put me in that direction. I have told people what I want and I am 3/4 of the way done in terms of furthering my education to get me that position. Today I had three separate conversations that pointed back to that sign.

The first conversation was with a person who just finished the very same degree that I am currently working on. We were chatting about the Master’s program, when she commented about my skill and mentioned that I may be a good candidate for a future endeavor. I replied, that’s the plan Stan! I told her I think it’s important to share your plans. She agreed, she said no one gets ahead by staying quiet about their intentions. EXACTLY!

The second conversation was with a new employee who has her eyes set on a brass ring. I can see the hunger in her eyes. She also is telling everyone who will listen her ambition. Good for her, I like her tenacity.

The third conversation was with a dear sweet friend. We were talking about personal goals, not work related ones. She had mentioned that she was interested in running the half marathon with me next August. I said it’s a date! Meanwhile, I mentioned that I had hoped to run the Donald Duck half marathon January 6, 2012. I was currently training for it and if all went well, I would be there because it is the 15th anniversary of the race. I was told there would be a bit of fan fare surrounding it! She asked me what was holding me back. I replied, CASH. School is expensive and that is my priority right now. She reached into her bag and gave me $5.00! She said if everyone who read my blog gave me $1 than I could go easily. She is right,and I would have money left over for a big donation to Make-A-Wish too. Before I left, another friend over heard our conversation. She gave me $5.00 too. So now I have $10.00 towards my flight! I have taken some Face Painting jobs this Christmas, so that will cover half my flight. This no longer sounds crazy! Okay, it sounds crazy, even to me.

I do however, come with a set of beliefs and values. I believe that no good deed goes undone. So… I am not going to ask you for a donation to send me to Walt Disney World in January. If you would like to contribute, THANK YOU!! But that sounds selfish. I am going to ask you to think about giving $1.00 to your charity of choice instead of me. I am not a charity – as much as I like to think I am – but I do believe in giving of yourself and money.

I will be optimistic and say WHEN you donate to a favorite charity because you read THIS blog, please tell me and I will write the amount on a piece of paper and put it in my fund. You can email me: edmtourist@gmail.com

you can tweet me: @edmontontourist

You can Facebook me: The Edmonton Tourist

AND of course you can comment below!

I want to see the generosity of people, of my readers. I want to know how much – I’m asking that you give $1, your morning coffee costs more…just saying, and where you give it.

As for my fund, If I don’t raise enough for 2012 marathon it’s okay, I KNOW I will raise enough for the 2013. Any extra will go to the charity I will run for, Make-A-Wish foundation. I will run for them, because I have been lucky enough to have my wish come true, Make-A-Wish gives kids a chance to have their wish come true. Dreams that come true are the second best feeling, making someone elses dream come true is the best feeling.

Thanks Laurie xoxo

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8 thoughts on “Signs, Signs, Everywhere There’s Signs

  1. “Essentially, The article tells women to be proud of their accomplishments and say so. Don’t assume the people in power know what you are capable of, tell them. Be assertive. Men typically do this all the time. When women do it, they are looked at as bossy or pushy. Have you ever heard the old adage, the squeaky wheel gets the grease? Well, it’s true.”

    As you know I have managed to achieve some things that I am not qualified for. I turned myself into a composites engineer and an expert in formulating adhesives.

    As I did these things I was insecure and thought that everyone would discover me to be a fake. So I made a lot of predictions on the outcome of things I was working on. I was always, and I indeed do mean always right. When things turned out as I predicted, I felt the need to remind everyone, especially those who disagreed with me, that I was right.

    In my twisted little mind, I thought they would believe I was indispensable to their goals. What I really was, was a giant pain in the ass. Instead of being indispensable they dispensed with me with extreme prejudice.

    Dispensing with me literally cost them millions of dollars in additional investment to buy knowledge that I already had. They didn’t give a rat’s ass about the money, they are still spending millions more and they still don’t care.

    It is tough being a genius sometimes.

    “The first conversation was with a person who just finished the very same degree that I am currently working on. We were chatting about the Master’s program, when she commented about my skill and mentioned that I may be a good candidate for a future endeavor. I replied, that’s the plan Stan! I told her I think it’s important to share your plans. She agreed, she said no one gets ahead by staying quiet about their intentions. EXACTLY!”

    Not so much. Unless you can self-finance your ideas, keep them to yourself. I have spent decades being screwed over by people I have shared my intellectual property with. Money = Greed, and all bleating about high personal integrity disappears when money is at stake. In 40 plus years of being an entrepreneur, I have always found this to be the case. Share nothing, until it is ready to go. Then hold up banks to get enough money to fund it. At worse you will get shot or captured and thrown in jail; but you will never be thrown under a bus by your friends and partners.

    ” run the Donald Duck half marathon January 6, 2012″ I don’t have a clue what this is, but put me down for a C-Note.

    Cheers,

    Bloefeld

    1. I hear what you are saying. Both you and mom bring up excellent points. Only I am not talking about intellectual property, I am talking about climbing a ladder. In Human service (which is VERY DIFFERENT from Private sector – having worked in both) one needs to make intentions know if one wants to be in Administration. That is all. It is not typically a field where there is advancement within the ranks. Being Human Service, money and greed never enter into the equation because there is none. Team takes on a whole new meaning. I have just made it clear, then when opportunity arises, I wish to be considered for certain positions. I also have the education that will back it up…again rare in Human Service field. I understand you and mom come from very different experience than my own. Those tips are valuable in certain situations. Thanks.

  2. i got my first job selling because the company i was working for did not have grounds to fire me. They figured I would fail. i succeeded out of spit, made tons of money, won some awards, and at my peak, I surprised them and quit. Four years later they are still trying to figure out what happen. I got the last laugh. Only tell what you can do if you are sure you can do it. .. . .and then prove to them you can. Bring your jar over and I will be happy to contribute. But be carefull, make sure your family is behind you 100% or the win maynot actually be a win.

    1. Qualitative Research is based on theory and observation. It is often used as a foundation or base to apply further research. It gives a basic understanding to the subject you are studying. Quantitative Research is more scientific based. It uses facts and statistics to provide information on the research subject. It often uses Qualitative Research as it’s basis and expands from there. Most researchers use this to gain money from funders because is shows hard facts. That is a brief as I can make it so it makes sense…hope it does!!! 🙂

  3. Yes, women need to be more assertive in business. Absolutely. I was chatting with someone last week about the progress of feminism and how far we have left to go. In North America it’s on us, now, I think. We need to say what we want, we need to make solid plans, and we need to be authentic in our words and actions. Women’s reliance on non-verbals in business is one of the things holding us back, in my opinion.
    Great post, E. We’ll be cheering for you!

    1. Thanks Des! Women tend to assume that people know what they are thinking. Not true in relationships with men or in business! Never assume someone knows what you want. It saves heart break in the end. There was a situation this year where this happened to me, it was awkward but I explained. Now everyone is on the same page. That is important!! I love having a cheering section 🙂

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