I heard wise words from a friend today: Adulting is hard.
If pain, hardship and emotional turmoil equate learning opportunities, then I am now a genius.
I am two days away from getting to sleep in my own bed after a month of living in my car and out of my suitcase. I experienced some pretty amazing things but I also felt the sharp sting of pain that cuts so deep I may not recover from it. I will have to alter my gait and keep moving until I develop new muscles that will assist me better.
Ready for the Edmonton Tourist Top 11 Adulting Lessons:
- There is a huge difference between Canadian small talk and American small talk. Or maybe I was just with people who felt the need to feel superior over me. At any rate, I learned that people will ask you questions and demand answers. You don’t have to answer them. You can say no. OR you can answer them and school those people on a few things, like Canadians don’t want to grow up and be Americans. We like you but we are proud to be Canadians. We also have our own role models and none of them happen to be American. Its cool that you have American Role Models, please accept that mine are not. Mine are Canadian because that is where I grew up and it is what I know and it makes me proud. Lesson Learned: Be proud of who you are and where you come from. Don’t let someone shame you into feeling otherwise.
- You can be the kindest, most supportive human on the planet but that doesn’t mean you get it in return. I learned that no matter what I do, I cannot force someone to want to spend time with me. They need to want to and if they do, they will make an effort. If zero effort is made, chances are, you are being used. This is painful. Lesson Learned: Be kind because it is the right thing to do not because you wish to gain from the experience.
- Secrets cause problems. If you share a secret, expect it to be told. Then you can expect confrontation. Just because you are loyal and can keep a confidence, does not mean this is true for everybody. Lesson Learned: Never share what you don’t want known.
- Be aware of your surroundings. It is easy to get lost. Pay attention to landmarks and signs. Your grandpa isn’t always available to lead the way. Lesson Learned: Don’t rely on GPS, learn to read a map.
- People who are not genuine do not smile with their eyes. Or they are tired of you….either way proceed with caution. Lesson Learned: It is important to be true to you, they will judge but who cares, just be the best version of you.
- It is okay to say no. I am pretty good at this now. But there is always that one person I cannot say No to. Lesson Learned: Start Practicing today.
- Choose your children over adults. I was faced with a situation of wanting to be somewhere or being with my child. I chose my child. This showed her that she is important to me, that I value her and that she can count on me always. Lesson Learned: Listen to your instinct when raising your children, no one knows your child better than you.
- Experiences are better than things. I met a gal who is successful in business but doesn’t have much to say. To have the ability to say things, you must experience things. Read a book, travel somewhere, site-see in you home town, I don’t care what it is. Experience things, enjoy the moment, don’t worry about what other people have or don’t have. Lesson Learned: No one can take your experience away.
- Stand up for yourself. I always wished I’d have that friend who would have my back. Not everyone is strong enough to do that. You will be disappointed if you wait for someone to stick up for you. Lesson Learned: You can always count on you.
- You cannot make everyone happy. If you try, no one is happy and you become miserable. Figure out what you need to happy then do it, everything else will fall into place. Lesson Learned: If people don’t like it, they can leave.
- Signs are everywhere. Pay attention. Don’t sleep your life away. When lost, the answer come if you are still enough. #11 saved me on this trip more times than I care to count. I pay attention and suddenly the answer appears. Lesson Learned: Signs are actually you believing in yourself. Trust what you know.